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Onstad55
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09/18/2008 2:15 AM Quote Reply Alert 

At the age of 18, I was raped and beaten. I thought I was going to be murdered. It was the most frighting night of my life.

I never got to really got to talk about what happened or why it happened or how it happened. Tell one night when I was on the phone with a friend that let me talk about what happened. I felt so good telling my nightmare story to my new friend. My new friend is a Sex Offender. It helped me to learn to forgive those people that raped me and hit me. I can now look at a sex offender and smile for I know they are not going to do it again. Because I am here to help them not to commit that crime again.

My life is a life of been there done that kind of thing. It is not easy to try and go on with your life when you have been a victim. And no one to talk to well why dont you join me and lets talk about it. I can even set it up for you to be able to talk with a sex offender. This sex offender is a special person because he was a victim and his story is the worse thing that could ever happen to a child and still having to deal with it. This has made him a stronger person to be able to forgive and put what he did behind him. He is so fun to talk to when you open up to him about what happened to you. I am here to help you as he will be also.

His name is Darrell. You can check us out more by going to www.RogerCherylHealingfoundation.com 

The reason why I am so into helping victims and prisoners is all in my web-site. Your welcome to come on in and really check me out.

My heart goes out to you for what happened to you. So come visit me. We'll set and have a cup of coffee. A good healthy visit.

Cindee (guest)

09/18/2008 4:25 PM Quote Reply Alert 

I too am a victim of sexual abuse.  Way back when I was being abused it was shameful and you didnt dare tell anyone about it.  If I knew then what I know now the man would be spending the rest of his life in prison.

I was 14 when it started and 16 when it finally ended with my having a wonderful baby boy.  My son and I are very close and I love him dearly.  After all it wasnt his fault how he was brought into this world.  That baby is now 32 and he has given me 2 wonderful grandchildren, but his conception is something I will never forget. 

I was beaten, raped and drugged for 2 years of my life.  I was threatened that if I were to tell anyone he would kill my mother.  My father had passed away when I was 9 so she was all I had left.  Even she didnt know what was going on.  She wondered where I was getting all the bruises and cuts but I never told her the truth. 

After meeting and talking with Darrell, a sex offender, I realized that I could finally let go and put the past behind me.  He taught me that more often than not, sex offenders were also abused and sexually offended and their way of lashing out was to offend.  Even though this is not the proper way to deal with abuse in a person's life, some can not think of any other way but to "get even" for what had happened to them. 

Not all offenders will learn from their mistakes but those that do are valuable people and ones to share your experiences with.  You get to hear their side as well as sharing your torment and horror with them.  It helps them to realize more of what the victims they created, went through and helps them to understand the lifelong pain they have caused innocent people. 

I am a part of the Roger & Cheryl's Healing foundation and I hope you will take a look at our web site as I am sure you can find some useful information there.  If you need someone understanding to talk to you can email me at any time and I will do what I can to help you through the pain and grief you may be experiencing. 

Thank you for reading this post.  I hope if you are a victim or an offender you will reach out for help and learn to let go of the past to become a better person inside yourself.

 

Cindee C.

brentslady2001@yahoo.com

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